For eight months I was doing everything right. I had quit drinking. Stopped smoking. I was going to the gym almost everyday and absolutely in love with it. I was trying to be the best wife I could be. Although that may sound simple, when you come from a world where the only interest worth having is self interest. It is not as simple as it seems. I tried to start exploring why it is that I feel so disconnected. From myself, from my emotions, from love, and my husband. But then like I should have expected other forces began to come into play. Forces that are so much larger then myself. Forces that make self destruction, excessive drinking, hell even the warm numb of drugs so much more appealing then anything life.
I have either been blessed or cursed with a complete lack of memory. I have spent the greater part of my adult life arguing with others on the way history really was. A therapist once told me that the things that had happened to me were so horrific, my brain was protecting me. My mind knew enough to know that the truth was more then one person could carry. But it wasn’t just the bad stuff either. I can’t remember almost anything. I get blips of these moments that pass through my head. I know somewhere in me the rest of the details lie. But I can never, not ever recall them.
About six months in to this new me. This happy healthy all encompassing me. Something started to change in my brain. These soft moments of memories started to slip back through. At first it seemed kind of nice. I would have a glimpse into a day at the Airplane park with my brothers and cousin. I could feel the hot metal of the nose of the plane as I crawled out to sit on it. I would just catch myself smiling. Mid day, and for what to others must have seemed like no apparent reason. It was nice at first to start to regain some of these memories. Can you imagine what it must feel like to feel constantly like an empty box? As much as I can logically know that I am made up of all the little moments in life that built me to this place. I have no recollection of any of them.
But the sweet, easy, and kind memories. They didn’t stick around too long. Very quickly the blips I was beginning to remember were the very things that I never needed to really know. The feeling of a hard slap. The way some ones blood comes flowing from their wrists. The way it sounds when you hear the man you respect most in the world crying because he couldn’t protect you. Now most of theses memories I already had some tiny recollections of. I probably would have been ok if everything had stopped there. But it didn’t. Soon the memories of being held down and ripped open started. Things that I couldn’t have even told you had ever happened to me. All of a sudden in the middle of my day they were in my brain just washing around waiting to tumble out of my mouth. I didn’t know how to process. Still don’t. I just know I prefer the numb and empty soul.
I started drinking again. Slowly at first and I convinced myself it was all in good fun. But the truth is, I can’t feel. I can’t feel joy, or pain. I can’t feel love or even hate. I am always just this empty shell mimicking others emotions. I do not know if there is good in me. I am certain that I am not bad though. I think I am just hollow. I have been trying to play the game the way the world expects you too. But I only seem to be hurting more people in the process. Maybe I am at the point where I need to accept I am too damaged.